The date is Friday, October 9, 2015
Dave and I are 33
Henry will be 6 in four days (Oct. 9 was my due date – he was four days late!)
Ben is 3 years, 8 months
Ellie is 13 months
My last few DITLs have been work days, but today is a day “off.” I don’t work in an office anymore (!), but I do still have my nanny 3-4 days/week. Fridays she’s always off, and this week I’d given her Thursday off, too.
6 a.m. – My alarm goes off, and I get out of bed at 6:03 a.m. – I feel like it’s a good start to my day when I get out of bed at 6:03, since that’s the minute I was born. Weird, I know. I get in the shower and hope that the kids will sleep late today so I can get ready in peace, but alas, Ellie is up by 6:20 and the boys are up at 6:30.
Dave showers and then takes the boys downstairs, and Ellie stays up with me and plays in the bathroom while I get ready. I let her play in the drawers and under the sink, and she’s actually pretty good – doesn’t do too many things that make me have to chase or redirect her.
I hear the boys fighting downstairs, per usual. I bring Ellie downstairs and go back upstairs for a few minutes to straighten my hair. I pick out clothes for all three kids, then come back down and Ellie’s at the table with Dave, Ben’s whining about not being able to find his new boxing guy, and Henry’s watching Minecraft videos on YouTube.
7:20 a.m. – Dave leaves for work and I’m on my own to finish the morning routine. Ellie cries and tries to get out of his arms when he hugs her good-bye – she’s in a real mama phase lately! It’s a chaotic morning, more so than usual, and I’m feeling pretty annoyed about everything. I can’t shake the nausea I’ve felt all week – I caught a stomach bug from my nephew the previous weekend and was down for the count Tuesday and Wednesday this week. The house is a disaster, the kids are all loud and needy, and I’m not in the best mood! I usually make eggs for breakfast but can’t stomach the thought of them today, so I make an English muffin with peanut butter and a banana instead. The kids have waffles and fruit.
I go upstairs and Henry asks me to take his picture with Darth Vader for DITL. He had slept on the floor the night before, and Ben slept up on the top bunk. I let Henry sleep on our comforter, which has butterflies on it, and Henry asks me why I want bugs on my blanket.
I “count” Ben a few times, as we are reading and using 1-2-3 Magic with him and Henry as of this week, and it’s actually working pretty well. Ellie is too young to punish, obviously, and so I have to just keep chasing her between getting everyone ready – she gets into the bathroom and unrolls the toilet paper if we forget to shut the door (which happens this morning), and she now climbs onto our dining room chairs and up onto the table when we’re not looking, too.
8 a.m. – I do Henry’s hair and pack his lunch – which is especially lazy and unhealthy on this day – an Uncrustable, an oatmeal creme pie (which I impulse bought at Target the day before because my kids have never experienced this goodness that my brothers and I enjoyed as children), a yogurt, yogurt raisins and some Cheez-Its. He also asks for Greens and True Lemon in his water today, which he asks for probably twice a week or so instead of just plain water.
I can’t stand looking at the full garbage and bags of recycling anymore so I run them outside quickly.
8:20 a.m. – Henry hugs and kisses me good-bye and walks across the street to wait for the bus with the neighbors. On days Shelly has the two little kids, I join Henry and the neighbors out there, but on days when I have them home with me, we usually just watch from the window. The bus picks him up and off he goes to kindergarten.
8:40 a.m. – I pack the three of us up and we get in the van. Ben goes to preschool from 9-11:15 one morning a week at a private preschool about 10 minutes from our house, and Friday’s the day! It’s so fun to watch him be independent from his brother and dip his toe in the water of school. And as much as I’m thankful every single day that I no longer work for anyone but myself, I am extra, extra thankful every Friday when I get to take him and pick him up from preschool. I love it.
9 a.m. – We walk Benny into his classroom and I overhear another parent saying “oh, I forgot the permission slip!” and I’m like um, what permission slip? I knew Ben was walking down to the fire station next week but I hadn’t seen a permission slip. Apparently I’d missed it on the back of the newsletter – oops. So they give me a new one to sign and bring back later.
Ellie and I walk back out to the van, and I’ve brought a piece of licorice to keep Ellie occupied and awake on the 10 minute drive home so she doesn’t ruin her morning nap! I want her to nap so I can have the time to myself while Ben’s at school. It does the trick and she makes a big mess of herself on the way home.
9:15 a.m. – I nurse Ellie up in her room and she goes right down for her nap without a peep. I think about all the things I should do – clean the messy house, get some work done – but I feel nauseous and tired and decide to watch a half hour of Kelly and Michael (which I’ve DVRed today because I knew I might want to watch!) on the couch instead.
9:45 a.m. – I straighten up a bit and then open my laptop and work from 10-11. I email and message with a handful of people, post to my team Facebook page, pay a bill and change my FB profile pic to pink and blue for the pregnancy loss campaign that’s happening on there this month. It was seven years ago this month that we lost our first baby at 8 weeks.
11 a.m. – I realize we have to leave in like two minutes, so I go upstairs and wake Ellie from her nap. The sweet girl is so easygoing, not making any fuss about being woken up or being put right back in the van again.
11:15 a.m. – I’d grabbed Ellie a sweatshirt and I put it on her when we get out of the van at Ben’s school since it’s pretty chilly out. We pick Benny up and he’s had another fun day, painting and singing and playing. I turn in the permission slip and we head out. Today he’s made a very hungry caterpillar project with shapes that’s super cute. I take his picture with it when we get home.
11:30 – 1 p.m. – We clean the messy sun room and I make the kids lunch – pb&j (Ellie’s first one! She’s not a huge fan), apples and pretzels (ham and cheese for me) – and then I let Ben play “the guy game” on the N64 and Ellie and I play together in the sun room for awhile.
Ben joins us to play tea party, and when he sets up his cakes at the table, I ask to take his picture because he looks handsome today and he proceeds to make a whole variety of weird faces for me. Sigh.
1 p.m. – Nap time! Nurse Ellie upstairs again and let Ben play a few more minutes, then head downstairs to bring him up to nap. I tell Ben we can maybe do a craft later with the leaves we collected yesterday at the park, and he responds “are they going to do a craft, too?” since I’d said we’d do a craft WITH them. Hilarious.
1-3 p.m. – The kids nap and I work again and send some emails. The mailman delivers an It Works box and I’m VERY excited that it’s the newest product, WOW (Wipe Out Wrinkles) which I ordered over a week ago when it first became available! I take an embarrassing number of selfies before picking the right one to put on Facebook and Instagram, offering up samples. I get a big response and decide I’ll wait til next week to start on that project. I can’t wait to try it tonight.
The third person this week makes reference to my nausea and possibly being pregnant, and even though I know I just had a bug, I decide to take a test anyway just to be sure. Not pregnant – whew.
3 p.m.(ish) – The kids wake from their naps and we hang out. I nurse Ellie again after she asks for it by sticking her hands down my shirt. She’s quite the little demanding diva these days.
3:45 p.m. – Henry’s home! I hear the bus come around the corner and I open the door to wave at the bus driver and greet Henry. He’s had a great day – he loves kindergarten. He’s very excited to show me the “star student” backpack he’s brought home since it’s his birthday next week. The bag includes Pete the Cat, a friend he gets to spend time with for a week and then record his adventures in a little journal the class passes around.
4 p.m. – It’s a gorgeous day so we head out on a walk and go to the park in our neighborhood. Henry asks me to take his picture with Pete the Cat on his bike, on the slide and on the teeter totter. He tells me that a fire truck and firemen visited their school today and when he says “hey mom, guess what we’re supposed to do if our clothes are on fire?” and I blurt out “stop, drop and roll!” without thinking, and he cries because he wanted to tell me the answer. I hug and kiss him and apologize because I feel genuinely bad that I ruined that for him!
Ben collects garbage and throws it away, which makes me proud. We toss around a football that someone’s left down there. Henry displays the leaves and pine cones we found yesterday that are still in a bread bag in the stroller.
5 p.m. – We’re back home and I preheat the oven – it’s pizza night! Love pizza night. I was going to let Henry play a little Minecraft, but he has a close call on the walk home riding his bike in the middle of the street and not seeing a car coming, so I don’t let him. He works on his All About Me poster that he’ll bring to school and present to his class on Monday. We decide we’ll get pictures printed of our family and of him and Pete the Cat at Walgreens this weekend, but he can draw pictures for the other parts.
I read “I want to visit” and he says “the fire house.” And I say Henry, you can pick anywhere in the whole world! So he says “the moon” and draws that. Then he draws an astronaut for what he wants to be when he grows up, even though I tell him that maybe by the time he’s grown up, you won’t even need to be an astronaut to travel to the moon! For his favorite things he lists Xbox, pizza and basketball. For what he’s good at, he draws him on a bike and him dribbling two basketballs at once. (Apparently he’s really good at this.)
Ellie makes a mess of something in the pantry, per usual, and I pour myself a big glass of wine. The timer goes off for the pizzas, and then I’m suddenly getting Ellie off the table AND giving Ben a time-out and I forget about them for a couple minutes and almost burn them! But luckily they’re ok.
5:45 p.m. – Dave comes home to the crazy town house just as I’m pulling the pizzas out, and he gets himself a beer and changes out of his work clothes. I cut the pizzas and dish everyone up some, and we put on Monsters University and have a picnic in the living room, which is our Friday evening tradition. We bought this movie last Friday and are now watching it for a second time.
7:15 p.m. – A teammate of mine stops by to pick up the banner we pass around for events. We chat for a few minutes at my door while her family waits in the car. I take Ellie up to bath right after she leaves. She grabs the shampoo bottle and puts her mouth all over it – gross – and I give her a big mohawk just for DITL, ha. We make faces in the mirror after she’s out, and I brush her hair and get her in some jammies.
7:45 p.m. – We hear fireworks outside so we come downstairs and all five of us walk outside into the street to see where they’re coming from. We can see them through the trees and they’re, like major fireworks! They’re coming from the private college in our neighborhood, as it’s Homecoming weekend. We watch for a good five minutes and it’s a very sweet, spontaneous, special moment. Ellie snuggles close and isn’t so sure about the noises she’s hearing. After a few minutes I take her back inside and take her upstairs to bed. She nurses just for a minute or two and then starts to whine like “put me in my bed.” I hug and kiss her and put her down, give her her nuk and lambie and tell her to have sweet dreams. She goes down SO easily these days. Girl loves her sleep!
8:10 p.m. – Dave brings the boys up and they brush teeth and he reads them books. We hug and kiss them good-night and they go to bed. While in their room I say to Dave “let’s watch a Kimmie Schmidt” (a Netflix series) and Henry says “who’s Kimmy Shit?” and I stifle a laugh and tell him he can’t say that word. SchMIDT! Ben also keeps saying “HallowEENER” is coming soon, since Dave said that earlier.
8:30-10:30 p.m. – We go in the bathroom and try the WOW and wow, it works like crazy well. We watch our forehead lines literally disappear. We take each other’s pictures in the bathroom and Dave tells me I better not share his because he’s broken out. Ha. I tell him I won’t. We watch a Kimmie Schmidt and yada yada yada and I hit the bed pretty early for me, around 10:30. I check on my babies and take their picture and they don’t stir at all.
I sleep almost eight hours straight and get up with the kids the next morning around 6:30. It’s Dave’s day to sleep in, which is fine since I got to bed pretty early and I know I get to sleep in tomorrow, after our date night that we have planned. We go to the farmer’s market in the morning and then have our date at Sanford that evening, which is fabulous. Sunday I sleep in til 8 and we have a plans-free day! Life is really good.