I feel like I *just* did one of these posts – and I did! Waiting til 13 weeks, 3 days last week put me off schedule and now here I am again already.
Date: March 4, 2014
(Photo taken March 3)
Photo thoughts: Why is it so hard to get a good pic with my boys each week? They won’t stop moving so they’re often a big blur, Ben’s saying cheeeeese instead of smiling. Sheesh.
Size of baby: 3 1/2 inches or so – a lemon!
Cravings/aversions: I’m just going to start taking liberties with these questions since I don’t want to be giving the same answers each week.
I think it’ll be easier to dial back the eating and dial up the exercise once the weather FINALLY warms up and we’re not just caged animals in our house each evening. I also think I’ve gained about seven pounds at this point, which seems a little high, particularly because that’s on top of my normal five-extra-holiday-pounds – so really like 12 pounds over my normal happy weight. Yikes! I have six months to go!
What I’m loving: That spring is just around the corner (I hope, anyway.) That baby and my bump are growing bigger every day. That this pregnancy is feeling more and more real. My bigger boobs.
What I’m anticipating: Movement!!!
What I’m stressing about: I wouldn’t say I’m stressing but I’m nervous about our childcare arrangement moving forward, since there are big changes on the horizon with Henry starting preschool and with a new baby joining our family. We put a nanny job listing on Care.com two weeks ago and got a good 15-20 responses. Two of them were really promising and I had some good back and forth with each. They’re both coming to meet with us this week – one tomorrow evening and one Thursday evening – and I’m nervous because I’ve never done this before! It’s a huge deal to invite someone to watch our children inside our home, and I’m really hoping that we get a good vibe from one of them and can move forward.
The goal is to have the nanny start at two days per week right away, and the boys will still go to Kelly’s three days a week. This will let us slowly get used to the nanny thing and allow me to not have to get the kids out of the house a full five days a week anymore. (which is way easier to do in the summer than in the winter, but it’s never a picnic!) Plus we’ll slowly get used to spending more on childcare, since a nanny will cost a few dollars more per hour than what we’re paying Kelly, and of course that number will go up again once baby #3 is here. (gulp)
I still want the boys to go to Kelly’s part-time because they enjoy it there, we like her and I really like that they have little friends there to play with, especially now that summer is on the horizon and they can play outside.
Come fall, the nanny will ideally be off for my maternity leave and I’ll take the boys to Kelly’s two or three days per week so I can have some alone time with the baby. Then after my maternity leave, I’d like to do three days with the nanny and two days at Kelly’s. Henry will be at pre-school, so no more Kelly’s for him, except on days he’s off school. On the days the two younger ones go to Kelly’s, Henry will be in the before- and after-care program at school, and on the days when the nanny is at our house, he’ll come back home after school, either by the bus or by the nanny picking him up.
It’s all very, very overwhelming to think about. Paying three separate entities, juggling all the schedules, having kids in two different places, having someone in our home, having a new baby in the mix. It’s going to be really expensive for awhile, but I keep reminding myself that it’s only temporary. After a year Henry will be in all-day kindergarten. A year after that, Ben will start pre-school. Before I know it, all my kids will be in school and childcare costs will be lowered DRAMATICALLY. We’ll be rich!!! Ha.
I know we’ll figure it out because we have to. And it’ll all work out in the end. I’m excited about the prospect of a nanny, since it’s always been on my wish list for when I had three kids. I love that my kids will just be able to stay home a couple days a week, and not have to get dressed first thing in the morning, and that I won’t have to do daycare drop-off or pick-up on those days.
Wish us luck that we find someone we really like!!
Miss anything? Warm weather.
Worries: See above re: childcare.
Differences between pregnancies: Just found this post from when I was 14 weeks pregnant with Ben. Sounds just about right – the wondering about this baby’s gender is something that consumes my thoughts much of the time, and I cannot WAIT to find out!!!! Also, we had our baby named by this point last time. We are so far from that this time!! It’s funny – both my girl names (Henry would have been Gabriella and Ben would have been Eleanor) are not on my list anymore.
I have a LONG list of names I like, which I should share in a separate post. But I don’t have a lot of names I just LOVE. And naming a baby is a really big deal! I didn’t love the name Henry right away, but it grew on me fast. Benjamin is the only name I ever really LOVED, and we knew right away that if we had a second boy, he’d be Ben. I’ve always LOVED Ella, since I was like 15 years old, and I can’t quite get past it, even though it’s very popular and Dave does not like it at all. I think Ella sounds beautiful with our last name, too.
But for now, our front runner for a girl is Scarlett, which I really do LOVE, too, and our front runner for a boy is Leo, which I can’t say I’m in love with just yet but I do think it’s pretty darn cute. Boy names are really hard, especially since we’ve used our four favorites – Henry, Oliver, Benjamin and George – already!
Not going to worry about it too much til we know what’s in there!
How I’m feeling: Pretty great. I mean, annoyed at this weather, like always. But I feel good.
Sleep: Good. Except when my sick child keeps me up half the night.
Exercise: None again this week, which is shameful. BUT. We finished Breaking Bad last night finally (SO GOOD!) and I feel like that has consumed my evenings the past few months. Now that we’re through it – and I am not starting any new shows for awhile! – I can spend time working out and doing other things in the evening. I’m going to work out tonight, in fact!
Movement: I think I felt a few more flutters today after lunch while sitting here. Nothing major yet, though.
Boy or girl: No clue. I waffle. And as I said, my mind is just consumed with ‘which is it?!’ Most days I think oh my gosh, I REALLY want a girl. And yet I feel like, well, three boys would be SO fun, too. I think/know I’ll be fine and delighted either way, I just want to KNOW.
We visited mom and Dale on Sunday since they were babysitting baby Jett, and I love the pictures my mom got of me with the three boys. Those pictures make me SO excited to have three kids of my own, and it makes me think, a brood of boys definitely suits me!
The bump: There! Cute! I love it!
Milestones: Nothing major. Officially in maternity clothes full-time now. Actually, am wearing regular pants today – but I’m pretty sure that’s the last day of that!! I’m pretty uncomfortable in them.
Best moment of the week: Lots of good moments this week. The boys started swim class over the weekend and they both made me SO proud. Ben cried at first but by the end of the class was splashing and reaching and having a ball. And Henry had been DREADING swim class for weeks since it was his first time without a parent in the water with him. I thought for sure he’d freak out (Little Ninjas, anyone?) but he ROCKED IT and made me so proud! He got right in the water and did everything the teacher said and was so brave!
Also, we had a really sweet moment on the bed Sunday evening, all four of us listening to baby’s heartbeat on the Doppler. It’s just so surreal to me that I’d listened to both these boys with this thing, and now here they were sitting next to me, listening to their baby brother or sister! Ben held the big part of it up to his ear and said “hi baby! hi baby!” It was so cute.
And Saturday night was Truman’s birthday party and I finally got to meet sweet baby Tommy! And Julia and I took a belly picture together, which I said we need to do a few more times throughout our pregnancies! We’re exactly eight weeks apart. I went first for our first two babes, so it’s fun to switch roles this time!
Other notes: I feel like now that I’m in the second trimester and spring (and summer!) are on their way, this time will start passing much more quickly. Six months from now feels so far away, and yet I know that once that baby is here, I will feel like the time FLEW! Knowing it’s my last pregnancy, I just want to savor all of it and not try to rush time. I savored my other pregnancies like crazy, too, but I somehow want to find ways to savor this one even more. I know I’ll be sad when it’s over! And yet at the same time, I can imagine how lovely it’ll feel to know our family is now complete. I feel so happy and lucky to be here. And I think Dave is getting more and more excited, too, which is awesome. I’m moving into the happy-pregnant-lady phase and I’m welcoming it with open arms, man.