The date is Friday, October 31, 2014
Dave and I are 32 years old
Henry just turned five
Ben is 2 years, 8 months old
Ellie is 9 weeks old
The first DITL post I did was two years ago exactly – October 31, 2012. I said on Instagram that this was my ninth DITL, but it’s actually my eighth – I missed winter 2013. My DITL history is in my last one of these from this past summer. I was 25 days out from having Ellie on that day! And I was having a terrible pregnancy side effect which sort of dominated that post – yuck. So happy to know now that it went away soon after and actually wasn’t an issue after giving birth!
I like to switch off between work days and weekend days for these posts. I was due for a work day here, but hey! I’m on maternity leave! So my “work” days right now consist of being home with my kids. Which is certainly still work. ;) Had I done a day when the boys were with Shelly (currently 1/2 day Tuesdays and all day Wednesdays and Thursdays) my post would have been pretty boring. But I will note for the record that those days of my maternity leave have been so completely blissful! I enjoy my Mondays and Fridays home with all three, though it’s obviously a night and day difference from the days I’m home with just Ellie. And this day in particular was … not our best day. Not our worst, but definitely not our best. But it’s good to document the bad days, too, since I imagine I’ll forget most of it over time, and with only happy pictures to look back on to jog my memory, I imagine my glasses will be fairly rose-colored by then.
This day was also a bit different than my typical Fridays on maternity leave since Henry didn’t have school because of teacher in-service. So instead of only having the two younger kids from 8:20-11:20 while Henry was at school, I had all three all day. I really enjoy my time with Ben while Henry’s at school, and then my time with Henry in the afternoon while Ben’s napping (after an hour of quiet / mommy time first, of course!) But all three all day is obviously just a different ballgame.
So here’s our day – Halloween 2014!
3 a.m. – Ben wakes me up. Can’t remember why. Thankfully this is a rarity these days, as the boys usually sleep all night now, thank God.
4:53 a.m. – Ellie wakes up for the first time, after sleeping since about 11 p.m. (or midnight? can’t remember – she usually goes down for good between 11-12 these days) and I nurse her in her room until about 5:20 a.m.
6:05 a.m. – Ellie squawks and I go into her room and put her nuk back in her mouth and she goes back to sleep.
6:15 a.m. – Ben wakes up and comes into our room. He talks loudly and rolls around and generally annoys us as he always does in the morning in our bed when we’re tired and just want to sleep a few minutes longer. We each wait for the other to get up with him, and I finally begrudgingly get up and take him downstairs and put AFV on the TV. I cover him with a blanket on the couch and tell him I’m going back upstairs to lay down for a little bit.
6:45 a.m. – Henry wakes up and Dave gets up and goes downstairs with him. Ellie wakes up and I bring her into bed with me and nurse her again and she falls back to sleep.
7:20 a.m. – I check Facebook and Instagram on my phone and enjoy seeing the likes and congrats on my pics – I promoted to Emerald level with It Works the day before. :) Dave and I fight (him downstairs, me upstairs) and one day later we can’t remember why. I was just not in a very chipper mood and something he did or said likely annoyed me and I may or may not have overreacted, as I tend to do. Ellie is asleep in our bed as I get ready for the day. I don’t normally shower this early (since I’m on maternity leave and all – some days I don’t shower at all!) but Dave works later on Fridays and doesn’t leave til 8:15, so I take advantage of the time to take a shower and get ready in relative peace. I do come down for a minute for something, and Ben’s watching YouTube videos and Henry shows me that the strawberries he put in his bug house a week or so ago are now all moldy and gross. Lovely.
7:50 a.m. – As I get ready up in the bathroom, I hear Henry constructing a “trap for mom” at the bottom of the stairs. Dave tells me he made me an egg sandwich for breakfast. Very nice of him. I remember saying something like “as a way of apologizing, right?” And he responds by saying something about what a grouch I am, ha. I come down the stairs and see Henry’s trap, and he’s kindly laid two pillows at the bottom of the stairs to catch my fall. I make a big spectacle of tripping on the cardboard bricks he’s set up and fall down on the pillows. Sort of hurt my wrist in the process. Tell him he has to pick up the whole mess now. I eat my egg sandwich and a banana and chat with the fam for a few minutes.
Dave and I are over being annoyed with each other now. Ellie wakes up and I bring her down with me and she falls back to sleep in her bouncy seat. She wakes up a few minutes later and spits up all over herself. Henry falls off his chair at some point. We groan about frost on the grass and on Dave’s car. Too soon! I ask Dave to take some belly pics – I wrapped for the first time three days ago with an It Works wrap and need to take my 72-hour pics. I put them side by side later and there’s a definite noticeable improvement!
8:15 a.m. – Time for Dave to leave, and I tell him to pose with his Halloween costume. It’s a beer pong cup and his whole department is wearing the same thing. It’s a pretty lame, cheap-o costume that he had to pay 20 bucks for and he’s not too happy about it. I tell him to text me a pic later. He kisses us all good-bye and leaves. It’s COLD and super windy out today, yuck.
I go upstairs to straighten my hair and bring Ellie with me while the boys play downstairs. Then we all get on the couch together to watch some morning TV – I had told them that the people on the Today Show and Good Morning America will be in costume today, so we flip between those two shows. I’m most excited for Kelly and Michael, though! I’ve really gotten into their show on this maternity leave.
9 a.m. – Live with Kelly and Michael starts and we watch the whole hour-long show. There are costumes and skits and I try to enjoy it as best I can, but the boys are just ANNOYING the whole time. It really illustrates to me how spoiled and in need of constant entertainment they are, and it angers me and makes me feel like a total failure as a parent. Henry keeps asking to see costumes, even though there are costumes EVERYWHERE – in the audience, on the stage, in the skits. What more do you want?! And Ben is totally bored and wants to see “scary guys,” and anytime there’s a commercial, he asks – no demands – that I fast-forward. I explain to him that that’s not how live TV works and that he has to be patient, and he freaks out. Oh, what I wouldn’t give right now to just watch the show in peace.
Near the end of the show, they do their version of the Shake It Off video with a bunch of celebrity cameos and it’s adorable. We get up and dance along with it, and then we rewind it to do it again. This helps lift the mood a bit, thankfully.
10 a.m. – Ellie’s asleep and I decide to pump. I’m trying to pump once a day now that I’m heading back to work in a couple weeks, but I’ve been fairly lazy about it. But today I feel pretty full, plus I just want an excuse to have 10 or 15 minutes of computer time. I think it’s actually my best pumping session to date since having Ellie, like 6 oz. With the boys I could almost always overflow the bottles if I kept going, but Ellie just doesn’t eat like they did so my supply isn’t as big.
The boys color at the table, The View is on in the background and we take a peek here and there to see the costumes on that show, too. I put a bottle together for Ellie for when she wakes up – 2.5 ounces in the bottle and the other 4 in the fridge to freeze. I get myself a second (third?) cup of coffee.
10:30 a.m. – Ellie wakes up and I change her diaper. She gives me tons of smiles and is just the cutest. I hook my iPhone up to the computer to transfer all my pics over so I can delete them and have plenty of room for DITL pics today. I feed her her bottle and she downs the entire thing like a champ. I haven’t given her a bottle in quite awhile so I’m glad she’s still willing. Ben shows me his muscles. Dave sends a picture of him and his team in their cup costumes. I text with Andrea a few times.
I put Ellie down and get super annoyed at how ridiculously messy the house is. I spend 15 minutes or so picking up and cleaning up, and Henry says he’ll clean the sun room. I put the 80s music channel on the TV while we clean. I take Ellie upstairs to get her dressed, then we come downstairs and sit on the couch for a few minutes and snuggle. I’ve Had the Time of My Life comes on. Ben’s in a Pull-Up and has been dry all morning – I ask him if he has to go potty and he says no. But then a minute later he says he does have to go, so I take him to his frog toilet by our downstairs bathroom and then walk away, telling him I’ll give him some privacy. A minute later Henry yells for me to come see – and Ben has peed on the toilet! This doesn’t happen too often yet so we are all VERY excited. We clap and cheer and I let him pick some trick or treat candy. Of course he picks a full-size bag of M&Ms. Whatever kid – mom’s proud!
11:15 a.m. – Henry has cleaned the whole sun room and has done a very good job. I get the boys some lunch, though it’s not much of a lunch … Henry has leftover chicken nuggets (Shelly got them McDs on the way home last night since she brought them home later than normal) and Ben has a yogurt. That’s all either of them wants right now so whatever. Ben shares his yogurt very nicely with Henry when he asks a few times. I pull down their ‘caught you being good’ jars and Henry gets four cotton balls and Ben gets two. Henry gets them for cleaning up his trap mess without a fuss; making my bed while I straightened my hair this morning “just to be nice,” cleaning the sun room and … I can’t remember the other reason. Ben gets one for peeing on the toilet and one for sharing his yogurt so nicely.
Noon – We’re all doing much better after the rough morning. The house is clean(er) and the boys are being relatively good. I get out a few little things I got for them at Michaels the other day – some cut-out paper pumpkins they can color and some Halloween stickers. I get them paint from downstairs so they can paint the pumpkins, too. This keeps them busy at the table while I nurse Ellie on the couch. (I get a little video of them first – “Do you want me to call you Jeff? Hi Jeff!”) I turn on True Tori, which I have DVRed but don’t really ever watch, since I don’t really watch much TV these days. But I’m glad it’s there for moments like these when I do have a few minutes and want something to watch.
I put Ellie down to make myself some lunch. Things go slightly downhill for a bit – Ben poops in his Pull-Up and I have to change him, then I hear Ellie cry and I see that Henry has scared her by shooting at her with his Nerf gun at close range as she sat in her bouncy seat. There was no bullet but just the pop of the gun on her freaked her out, and I get mad. I send him up to his room and he cries the whole way up.
He comes back down and apologizes a few minutes later, and the boys go back to doing their crafts while I finish making my lunch. I have a boring salad and watch more True Tori while I eat it. The boys are in the room and very loud. Ben pees in his Pull-Up. I lay him down and his diaper is off for a minute and he sits up and says something about putting his “dirty butt on the floor” – on my white carpet – with a big grin on his face. I tell him that’s it, it’s nap time. I take him upstairs to nap at 1:40 p.m. Henry goes into the sun room to have some quiet time. I turn on the TV for him and Sponge Bob is on. I don’t really care for him watching this show, but I’m picking my battles today.
1:55 p.m. – Ben comes out of his room and I tell him to go back to bed. I snuggle Ellie and watch Parenthood from the night before. Henry comes and bugs me about halfway through, and I tell him dude, I asked for one hour of quiet time. He watches videos on YouTube while I finish my show.
2:40 p.m. – Henry asks me to help him decorate his jar, so we paint and apply some stickers. We also mix up some sugar cookie dough that my mom had brought over but didn’t end up making with Henry. We roll the cookies together and pop them in the oven. Take them out 10 minutes later, then frost them together awhile later after they’ve cooled.
3:50 p.m. – I’m in need of some energy, so I not only drink my Greens, as I do almost every afternoon, but I brew a single cup of coffee, too. End up not drinking it, though, since it’s bitter and too strong for my liking. Love me some Starbucks, but don’t really like it at home. Much prefer Dunkin Donuts coffee at home and vow to not buy the Starbucks stuff anymore.
Ben’s up from his nap and is grouchy, as he often is when he wakes up. He gets over it pretty quickly today, though. I look at Ellie and realize her hair is greasy as heck once again, despite just bathing her yesterday, so I put a Team Umizoomi on for the boys and take Ellie up to a bath. Get her all clean and put her in her Mommy’s Little Pumpkin outfit. I get a little video of her squawkin on her changing table.
4:15 p.m. – I realize it’s getting pretty late considering we’re supposed to leave for Julia’s house by 5 p.m. We’re going there tonight for pizza and trick or treating. I’ve just been lollygagging around and there’s still a lot to do! I spend the next 45+ minutes getting us all ready – feeding Ellie again, changing her again, getting the boys’ costumes ready, gathering up our stuff, getting myself dressed, etc. etc. We leave a bit late, surprise surprise. I never get anywhere on time these days when it involves getting three kids out of the house.
5:30 p.m. – We arrive at Julia’s and she and I catch up and enjoy a little wine (mmm) while the big kids play. I ask her about her visit with her mom and Memaw, and that reminds her that Memaw left me a gift. It’s a copy of a book she wrote in the 80s (as she’s a published author quite a few times over – so cool) for new moms. She wrote a message in the front it and I get a bit teary eyed I’m so touched. Julia’s Memaw is one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met.
We all eat some pizza and then it’s time to get costumes on. Her in-laws are there so we can leave Ellie and Porter home while we venture out, but I still get Ellie in her ladybug costume for a photo opp. We snap pics of the big kids and the babies, and then get a group shot, too.
6:30 p.m. – Julia, Nate and I head out with the four bigger kids to trick or treat in the cold and dark on their street. Dave arrives just then (he got off work at 6 p.m.) and runs inside to grab a beer, and then he joins us as we head up the block. Henry and Truman lead the charge and we have to keep a good eye on them since they want to be a house or two ahead as Ben and Cece trail behind. There are quite a few trick or treaters out, and there are people standing on their stoop handing out candy, while others have built fires outside in their yards. It’s all very charming and Halloween-y and we have a fun time.
7:15 p.m. – We get back to the house and Julia takes Porter upstairs to put him to bed while I take Ellie downstairs to feed her. I come back up and the kids are sorting through their candy on the floor. We visit awhile and Julia comes back down and we need to head out soon after since it’s bedtime for the kids and we’re tired.
8 p.m. – We say good night and head home. I take Ben and Ellie in the van while Henry goes with Dave in his car. I look at the passenger seat and see that the plate of cookies we baked and brought are still sitting there. Oops. I leave them there to bring to my sis-in-law’s house the next day instead.
8:15 p.m. – We get home and get the boys ready for bed. We hang in Ellie’s room a bit – Dave holds her in front of the mirror, then Henry holds her in the rocking chair. Ben loses a guy under his bed and Henry retrieves it. The boys are down by about 8:45. I take their picture in their beds with my flash, and Henry is not a fan of how he looks because of the flash and keeps asking me to re-take his picture. Ben comes out of his room a little after 9 and I snap his pic and tell him to go back to bed.
8:45 – 11 p.m. – I stopped taking notes and pictures after this. Ellie’s always up late, so I’m sure I had some internet time while she hung out in her bouncy seat. I took a bath while she hung downstairs with daddy. I actually got her down before 11 p.m. this night, which is a pretty decent night. I did get one last picture and it makes me giggle now. It’s 10:52 p.m. and I’d just put Ellie down to sleep – but of course as soon as I put her down, her eyes popped back open! I left her like that and amazingly she went to sleep.
11:15 p.m. – Dave tucks me in … and then I go to sleep.
That concludes this edition of A Day in the Life! It’s a good snapshot of life right now when I’m home with all three … highs and lows, constant demands, intermittent good moments. The days I’m home with just Ellie are far less eventful and oh so nice, involving more coffee, more snuggles and much more quiet. I always have a to-do list about a mile long these days, and it feels good to actually be able to cross a lot of things off the list on those days. It Works, Grateful Hearts, blogging, emailing, paying bills, working out, etc. Those are the days when I think hey, maybe I could do this stay-at-home-mom thing! But of course, then I wouldn’t have a nanny so there goes that idea. ;)